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One reason women of Elliot's era resigned themselves to staying in bad marriages and re-configuring marital suffering as spiritually virtuous is that they likely had few options for divorcing their husbands and living independently. To divorce meant facing ostracism from family, friends, and the church. Social isolation led to spiritual anxiety and second-guessing oneself, no doubt. My understanding is that before no-fault divorce, a case had to be made as to what justified the dissolution of the marriage.This cost money and likely resulted in further social derision. Society looked down on the working woman, often blaming her for husbands' infidelities, and the disparity in pay between men and women plunged women and children into poverty or forced them to marry again, out of desperation and often dangerously.

Actually, as I write this I realize that for women who are not within the 1% and seek divorce today, it's still the same!!

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Passion and Purity came out when I was in college. It was pushed by all the college ministries as the Bible for dating and marriage. I read it. I hated it. And yet I couldn’t shake her words. And they almost ruined my marriage. I wrote this 10 years ago.

http://www.cheetosforbreakfast.com/2014/02/it-was-1984-and-i-was-in-college.html?m=1

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